Is it really possible to change your core nature?
There was a Scorpion and a Frog –
One day a scorpion asks a frog to carry him across the river. The frog, afraid of being stung during the trip declines helping the scorpion.
The scorpion argues that if it stung the frog, both would sink and he would also drown, so for his benefit he would never sting him.
The frog eventually agrees and carries the scorpion across the river until midway, the scorpion does indeed sting the frog, dooming them both to drown.
As they slowly sink into the water the frog asks why he had stung him and the scorpion simply points out that, “I had no choice as this is my nature“.
You’ve had the feeling haven’t you? If only someone would stop being such a jerk they’d be a half decent person. And you probably really want this change in them for their own good – Right?
Maybe they need just one small aspect to change, then life would be much better for all. Maybe you’re motivated by their potential, to improve their lot in life which they can’t see.
How does it feel to have the same pressure pushed onto you? How do you react? Well, that’s an entirely different story.
“Accept me as I am”, you say!
Maybe this isn’t you and you’re genuinely interested in improving your personality for yourself and others around you. You know you’re not perfect and want to change the deficiencies but is this because you feel a lack of some aspect of who you are? Are you harsher on yourself than anyone else could ever be to you? This internal criticism of yourself is a variation on the external criticism of others, simply turned to look inward.
We’re all who we are at any time due to the genetics we’re born with and the sum total of life’s experiences. These have led us who we are today. There can be no other effects on us, so we are simply as we are, warts and all and can be no other way up to now. The future is a different matter but for now, in this moment, we’re all who we are and nothing can change that. There is no choice but accept who we all are and for that matter who they are.
Change into the future self.
The obvious next step is to cause change for the future and that can start now but change for most people is very difficult. There is a long legacy of experiences and conditions to stick us all into our paradigm but with real attention, change can be made but only if you have the fundamental understanding of what that means and the ability to change. If these aren’t present then change will not happen and things will remain the same. If change is not possible, yet again we’re back to where we started, with no choice other than to accept who we all are.
At the end of the day who we are is our nature, maybe, just maybe, you might be able to change some aspects of who you are but if you/me/they can’t, well, that’s just the way it is and we all must accept the nature of ourselves.